What is the difference between women and men? Why, what can you learn when there is no difference between the two? Why does it seem so hard to find a partner yet so easy to find an insult? A very simple difference that can cause so much frustration is the difference between interested and not interested. Men and women both want something , they just want it differently.
She’s Interested
In a very general sort of way men are more interested in the physical features or traits of a potential mate than women are. Women want so many other aspects of a man’s personality traits that so many men find it difficult to deal with a very simple rule:
Women are interested in your physical appearance as much as you are, but it is more for a short term sexual mate. If a long term relationship is what you want , then your physical appearance alone won’t bring you there. You will need to tell your personality traits and your honesty.
She’s Not Interested
In a more specific way women want two things:
1.Following their logical attraction
They try to avoid relationships with emotionally unstable men as much as possible since they don’t want to be held to their behavior. A very common not interested man trait is that he doesn’t know what he wants in a relationship and is usually confused when presented with several options. He must feel like a man and has to try to figure it out. This usually sends a woman running.
2.Security
Women want to feel secure as much as men do. There is a definite physical, emotional, and psychological connection in these two aspects and one of them must fall for the other at some point. So far from the concept that women love a bad boy , they feel secure with someone who treats them with respect and pays attention to their mind. That’s why deeply sad tered women are still drawn to emotionally unstable men and also attract them from time to time. These emotionally insecure men can take them out of there just by making them their mommies.
We have providers and we have drawers. Drawers are for clothes, shoes, toiletries, potty training, cars, and TV. Men have emotions, that’s why women end up attracted to them. If you don’t know your assets and you attract negative emotions, then you won’t be able to provide the kind of security that will attract the kind of women that you want
She’s Not Interested
If you hate yourself and you have low self worth, guess what women will feel? They will lose all their attraction for you. If you act needy and desperate for her affection, guess what will happen? She will lose interest in you. Attraction is not the same thing as love. Women can feel attraction when you feed off of their energy and energy from them. A confident man doesn’t need to “talk” to a woman to feel attractive. He can do all of that by himself and without talking.
There are a lot of men that need to “play the game” because they simply are unable to have the game be won. These men can feel at the top of their game playing the game too hard to get. Women know that these men believe that they are at their very maximum potential. If you play alone you will lose because you will not have the morale boost that it takes to be on top of your game.
We are once again going to back to basic positive proven evolutionary principles. There is an engagement, a dance of courtship that has been going on for hundreds of thousands of years that serves as our model for mating. This is the way that cave men attracted romantic women to them and to this day it still works.
If you have not developed the kind of social skills that will allow you to attract any woman, then you should be prepared to be back at square one.
The way to start is to figure out a way to be social. Now I know that word makes you think you have to be quiet relaxing tolerant and all that garbage, but it also acts as an attraction building tool. Not talking alone will make you look like a fool and even make her think that you have major confidence issues. Just go out with a social group of friends and you will be ready for the game. Even if you have a string of failures in dating women you will improve your game with the social proof and friends you will make.
The reason I say this is because even the biggest Casanovas during their heyday would pick up girls by learning how to talk to non-verbal cues. Find out what behaviors will get you up and moving in the social game and practice them. It’s like lifting weights, the more often you do it the sooner they will once again become the experts.
