Did you know that you can actually doom a relationship into failure before it ever really has a fair chance to succeed? How many men get turned off by something that you do? How many men have you dumped because you did the wrong thing around men? Do you need to be better at men and relationships in general? If you need some help being the fabulous girlfriend that you are, and if you need someRefined Tips On Men, then this article is for you. Being Mistake #1:
Not surprising men get turned off by women who are irresponsible. Most women know that being honest is the best way to go about creating a long term relationship and a few women realize that they should not tell a man everything that they are up to and then broke them when they get caught. However, there are still many women that feel the need to spill their dirty laundry to a guy.
In the beginning of most relationships, each of them will take the other person for their friend, or that they hope that they can change their partner, without the need to actually take them as a person and see them in an objective light and see things from their point of view. However, creating a relationship is two things:
As an independent human being, he is entitled to have his own personal life that he can control, but as a couple, you are entitled to have your personal life that you control and share separate from your partner. Therefore you don’t have to talk to him about every aspect of your life together. You don’t have to think that he is responsible for you as a person, as you’re the one responsible for yourself and your life. Also, don’t share the dirty laundry that you don’t want him to see or need to be the one to bring up an issue. By talking it out, if the relationship is going to work for you, make sure that it is your idea that you are telling him. Also, if a topic comes up and you are not comfortable discussing it, don’t try to discuss it. Aditely let him know where you stand on the topic. Men get turned off by a constant and noticeable tugging at their heart strings. Lastly, men get turned off by a woman who is always gripping and controlling the situation in an ill fated relationship.
On that note, sometimes I see women trying so hard to grab –
Men get turned off when a woman tries to constantly tell them what to do, how to do it, and if they are behaving correctly then they have no choice but to comply. Forcing a man or a relationship to work is just an extremely annoying task which only benefits the one who is doing the NOTE: giving her advice online
Men get turned off when a woman lacks independence. There are millions of books that say that it is every single mans responsibility to be someone that they are not. What I am trying to say above is that one must understand that in an independent personal life, an amorous relationship only succeeds in making the person who is in it utterly unhappy, sometimes in horrifying ways.
On that note, if he is the best person you have ever met and he wants desperately to be with you and you don’t want to be in an relationship with him, I recommend that you cut off all modes of communication with him for a while to evaluate what his degree of attraction is. Needless to say, don’t ignore him either, but just give him some space. I warmly recommend that you find someone who is in the same wavelength as you.
Once you have identified the one who is in the relationship with no connection to the “out thing”, be patient, if you are the still willing to turn him down, so long as you canGEa tap on his shoulder to get him out of your own hair:) Good luck!
